Manners, etiquette, politeness and respect are all words necessary for good relationships between people. Most often these are taught at home by parents or grandparents or family members. I think most of us
love to hear children say "Hello," "Thank you," "Nice to meet you," "I'm
sorry," and phrases which represent good manners.
What is the purpose of good manners? Manners show the other person that they are important and deserve politeness. They signal the person or persons they are talking to that they are listening to them or giving them proper attention. Ever notice how much better a conversation goes when both of the parties are using their manners?
I often go to "IN and OUT" for food. I am consistently impressed by the personnel and how attentive they are to me. They greet me, they thank me, and I always have a good experience there. I'm sure we all have had not so great experiences with different fast food places and had the opposite happen. I have. I feel rushed, not duplicated, not important, and
and I leave with a feeling of non- professionalism or worse.
When I taught my classes earlier in a private school, my
class and I set up a breakfast for the teachers. We had so much fun!
We cooked, we set up, we arranged tables, but a major part of the event was teaching the class manners! The boys were taught how to open doors for the teachers, to escort them to their reserved seat, and to assist them in anyway possible. They pulled out their chairs for them and helped them get seated. It was amazing. The girls and some of the
boys were taught to serve food. They we trained to say "What would you like"? or "What can I get for you"? They also were taught how to serve water and drinks and what side to serve on, or how to remove empty plates. Needless to say, I don't know who had a better time, the teachers who were served breakfast, or the students who helped set up the whole presentation and impeccably used their manners. I was extremely proud
of them! We received many, many compliments from the teachers.
A person's importance is made clear by showing him or her respect or caring using manners. It signals the person that they are valuable.
Manners need to be taught. They are necesssary. Children who do use their manners standardly leave great impressions on those they speak with. As a distant perk, these same children will have a much easier time getting future job interviews or jobs!
I do come upon occasional students in my tutoring center that have somehow escaped this training. This is one of our helpful extras that we deliver here. We work with them showing them good manners and explaining why these are important. Of course we make this learning fun just like everything else we do!
Well, that's it for now. Please feel free to leave me comments or suggestions for topics or questions about your child. I am here to help.