"Why does my child do so much better with you than with me? "
This is a question that I hear very often? Parents tell me that their student will cry, or act up, or refuse to work
with them. Homework can be a horrendous chore.
They ask, "What am I doing wrong?" Well, the answer to that is Nothing!
As I am a mom and grandmother myself, I am familiar with this situation and attitude. My own children did not
work well with me. As moms, we are so involved with the daily activities and emotions of our children. To add being a teacher or tutor to that is one more job that tips the scales.
Having a trained person, in a new safe environment, allows the student to relax and have all their attention on their studies without the distractions that occur in their
own home environment. Seeing other students with similar needs, also helps the student feel that he is not the only one who needs help.
I have a student who comes to me once or twice a week. He has some learning situations and also has specialty tutors that come to his hours 2 or 3 time a week. She commented to me that when we work together
for an hour, we get done more than when he is with his
other tutors for 2 or 3 hours. This is not a mystery.
When he is with me he is a student and doesn't get distracted by home matters. Things go smoothly, as he knows that we have a job to get done. I believe in rewards for hard work, so if he works his best for the hour, he receives a treat of some kind. His job is to be a student for that hour, nothing more! We also are in process of monitoring treats, as we realize that some students are very effected by types of foods and additives.
Hope this helps in some small way. Please feel free to write me any questions or concerns.